Resolved Question: Your top five African
Posted on 22 May 2009 | 12:17 pm
Resolved Question: What culture is hardest
I wonder which culture is hardest on their children when it comes to discipline. I hear a lot about how Asian parents are very traditional and strict on their children and demanding, but I personally think African-American parents (especially the moms) are just as hard. I'm African-American and well the women in my family don't play around. They are very insistent at times when things don't go their way. My mom can be very demanding and insisting on her way of doing things commanding respect which to me means obedience regardless of whether I agree or not or feel hurt or not all that matters is how she sees things. So yeah sometimes I wonder about which culture is the hardest and most demanding on their kids but I guess it is an irrelevant question because on the individual level each parent is different and I think universally all parents are gonna be firm with their kids at some point yearning to protect them from harm. I think parents will always see their children as babies (about to step into danger) no matter their age. I saw Joy Luck Club but I also saw Crooklyn and well the moms in both films were very firm with their kids (Lindo dragged Waverly to the piano in JLC while Alfree Woodard's character in the film Crooklyn, Mrs. Carmichael, whipped her kids one morning after they forgot to clean up the house the night before). So in those two films we saw two moms of two different cultures taking the reigns with their kids. Even Waverly screamed out "I'll never be the perfect daughter that you want me to be!" Sometimes I feel just like that, like nothing will ever be to satisfaction because my flaws and irritatable habits will always be emphasized. Whenever I get reprimanded emotionally for not doing something I should have done or doing something I shouldn't it makes me feel very guilty about even being alive because I feel that for every breath I take I will get another downgrade by everyone around me because I somehow infringed on their personal comfort and satisfaction so now they have something to blame me for. Being a human is tough, but I'm still kicking at 23.
Posted on 12 May 2009 | 8:02 am
Resolved Question: Who was the first actress
I'm not sure about all the early films that came out in the 1960s showing women in very aggressive situations or in that "take charge" tone, but I think Bette Davis is one of the earliest examples of the independent women on the big screen. I was also thinking of Sigourney Weaver in the Alien films and also many of the single mom roles portrayed on screen in films where the woman has to take leadership role in nurturing her children. I think Jennifer Lopez (Enough), Angela Bassett (Boyz N the Hood), Alfree Woodard (Crooklyn, Blue Chips) are also strong examples of this in a way. Another recent example of the independent or courageous woman could be Hilary Swank's portrayal of female boxer Maggie Fitzgerald in Million Dollar Baby. This of course being a major change from the days of the early 1950s films and probably 1940s of women always not having a choice in the matter as they yield to the men in their lives. Oh and I almost forgot about Kim Elise in Mad Black Woman! And Rochelle Aytes in Madea's Family Reunion was deep too! These two films dealt with battered women escaping their abusive spouses. Oh and sorry but I almost forgot about Jada Pinkett in her emotional film roles in Menace II Society as single mom Ronnie and in Set It Off as janitor Stoney whom robs banks with her friends. Those roles very powerful and Oscar worthy because of the emotion she poured into them. Gotta give it up to Jennifer Hudson and Beyonce Knowles in their respective courageous roles in the film Dreamgirls when they both found the strength to leave Curtis (portrayed well by Jamie Foxx). Disney films Mulan, The Little Mermaid, Beauty & the Beast, and Pocahantas also had courageous female leads taking charge which was a big shift from Snow White. She was so naive and careless. Still even though Cinderella was swept off her feet by a prince too gotta give her some credit for enduring such a nasty domestic life in a cruel family. We got to see her struggle when she was down and when she was in the gown so we saw the whole person, not just the good looks and that was a deep lesson to put in that film. I also can't forget about Ming Na in Joy Luck Club as June Woo carrying on in place of her deceased mother and in the process of confronting her family culture conflict she gained a deeper respect and love for her mother especially after meeting her half-sisters. Her role as Dr. Chen in the medical drama series E.R. is worth noting too just for all the stuff her character went through and endured. She really pours her whole emotional heart into her characters.
Posted on 10 February 2009 | 6:23 am
Resolved Question: Who is your favorite
My all-time favorite actress in Ming Na Wen and after her I go with Jada Pinkett, Vivica Fox, Angela Bassett, Kimberly Elise, Alfree Woodard so they round out my top 6 because they all know how to exert much power, emotion, and endurance into their film roles!
Posted on 15 December 2008 | 6:09 am